Sex without a bit of inventive fun is pretty boring, especially for committed couples in a long-term relationship with no prospects of ever having different encounters again. Similarly, casual sex encounters that consist of regular missionary positions can also be mundanely boring. Luckily, with the advent of online dating websites like Wickedlist, finding the ideal partner who is down for the freaky and nasty has become easy in the US. Let’s just quickly dive into the world of BDSM, particularly the dominatrix experience.

Thrill of Domination

I’ve heard so many theorems about men who love being dominated and the women who enjoy dominating them. One investigative journalist, Olivia Troy, went smack into the throngs of the dominatrix world, working under a professional operator who showed her the ropes of the BDSM world. That’s right, a professional dominatrix!

The dominatrix herself experiences just as much ‘pleasure’ as the submissive partner. Every dominatrix will tell you that the act comes with a powerful thrill greater than any sexual arousal they ever had. Of course, there is a bit of psychological power play going on, a lot of it actually! The man is stripped of his role as the ‘head’ or powerful symbol in society, and the dominatrix enjoys the rush of power that comes with ‘belittling’ this powerful man.

But, Is It All about Domination and Submission?

It’s easy to conclude that a dominatrix work revolves around being dominant in a sexual context, well, it’s not! Rather, dominatrices can interact with both dominant and submissive people. Men participating in this can either be after the experience of being controlled or simply trying to fulfill fantasies or fetishes they have. For some men, it’s also about escaping the social burden of control that they have in their lives e.g. big company executives who are otherwise looked upon for decisions and control all day every day.

Dominatrix. Is It Common or Not?

Do you get aroused by those leather strips, tight boots, and bitchy attitude, or is it something you enjoy doing? Contrary to what others may have you believe, domination is an age-old practice. In fact, studies were done as early as 1953 at the Kinsey Institute, which discovered that at least half of the sexually-active population in the US were seriously turned on by seemingly hostile sexual acts such as being bitten!

Suffice to say, the practice is pretty common, whether for long-term partners doing it in the privacy of their bedroom or casual sex hookups! What more, with the modern era innovations, finding the perfect freaky partner who’s down to engage and indulge in all that has become pretty easy. All you have to do is join a vibrant online dating platform like Wickedlist and indicate on your dating personal ad that it’s what you’re after!

Dos & Don’ts in Dominatrix Practice

The popular Netflix series, Bonding, has piqued the interest of many people, especially men, into encountering a dominatrix. Whether you opt to hire one or find one, there are several things that you should and shouldn’t do, chiefly:

• Choose Right Kind of Dominatrix!

BDSM sexcapades like this are all about trying stuff that you’re into. But you might be in for a big surprise if you just select a dominatrix at random! As mentioned earlier, they aren’t all the same but rather differ in what services they offer (for hired ones) or what they’re willing to do (for those engaging for the love of it). It’s also important to ensure you select the right location. For example, you could have the encounter in a pre-designed sex dungeon (more common than you may think!) or in the comfort of your own bedroom where you are more at ease.

Just to nudge you in the right direction, intense pain-inflicting sessions are best done in a dungeon. It perfectly completes the whole scene. However, for beginners, your bedroom can be pretty good for your comfort. Enjoying the session has a lot to do with how relaxed you are, and, as such, a sex dungeon might just scare you a bit due to the sudden change of scenery!

• Don’t Be Rigid!

As much as it’s ok to define what you’re into, you also need to keep an open mind when engaging in a session with a dominatrix, especially a non-hired one! Remember, it’s not all about you! So there has to be a compromise, and the dominant one enjoys the session as much as the submissive one. Be ready to try out new stuff and indulge your casual partner as you experiment with your limits and tolerances. That way, she would be more forthcoming to explore your interests too.

• Know When to Get into Character, and When to Ditch It!

The acts of a dominatrix can be pretty derogatory. Yet they’re consensual and contextual! This means both of you will get into character during the act and play out your fantasies. However, never let that behavior spill out of the session. As much as you love playing out your fantasies, the reality remains that you’re both people who deserve respect!

Play It Safe – Dom Hazard!

The acts carried out by dominatrices can be pretty violent in nature not to scare you. Nevertheless, there’s been a lot of reports of heart-attacks and serious injuries during these sessions! However, it all can be avoided easily if both parties establish a proper communication structure. Thus, the use of a safe word or safe gesture is essential. You can also check out our previous blog on safe sex basics that you always need to observe!

There’s also a nastier side to domination-sex. Most for-pay dominatrices have admitted that they conduct thorough research on their clients. This is because there tends to be a bit of violent nature to the encounter. As such, if ever you hook-up with a random person into this kind of stuff, be sure to observe the cautions of online dating. First of all, alert a friend and make sure to restrict your interaction to familiar territory!

Ready to explore your wilder side and engage in a dominatrix experience or find someone to dominate? Head over to Wickedlist now! Sign up for free and choose your perfect partner from the thousands of eager singles all over the US!