The saying ‘first impression is the last impression’ shines in its true glory when you approach a girl you really like and let the very first words leave your mouth. They are the words she’s going to judge you on and remember you for. It’s important to know what you’re going to talk about before you actually face the girl. Usually when guys don’t plan, they either end up talking about the most random things of all time and it ends up boring the woman or they become too flirty and end up crossing the line between appropriate and in appropriate.
So why does a guy become nervous or anxious when he’s trying to impress a girl? The answer is putting the girl on a pedestal i.e. thinking so high of her that one starts to think he is not worthy to be with her. So, guys think they need an out-of-the-box conversation starter to get a girl’s attention. This mindset is very common and just as much incorrect.
So, the lesson here is that you need to have a strategy or a plan before you go pouring your heart out to the girl just met and here are 5 right ways you can do that:
- Apologize for disturbing her
You’re probably going to be interrupting whatever a girl is doing when you approach her. She may be late for work, trying to focus on some task at hand or even simply having a conversation with another person. Hence, apologizing will surely make her think that you are a respectful and mannered man.
- Introduce yourself
Guys put so much attention on how they’re going to express their feelings for a girl or invite her on a date that they forget to introduce themselves first; this shows your confidence and it’s common knowledge that girls a drawn to a confident man.
- Talk about yourself
After a formal introduction it’s best to open up about your interests. Start with something general so the girl you’re talking to can relate to something and it can act as a great conversation starter. You never know which of those interests will strike a deeper connection between the two of you.
- Give her compliments to show admiration
Coming up with a good compliment is very tricky. It’s probably the hardest thing for a guy to pull off because you can easily cross the very fine line between being a romantic and a total creep. But this is an essential step because it can give the girl a hint what approach you’re taking. Make sure you not only compliment on her looks but on other characteristics too. A good example might be: ‘you’re something special’ or ‘you have an intriguing personality’.
- Show her that you enjoy spending time with her
For the first meeting, try to keep the conversation short and end with respectfully asking her out on a date or her number. Thank her for her time as well. This will show her you like her company.
Lastly, don’t play games with a girl like ignoring her, not calling her back, or playing hard to get. This will draw the girl you like away and things might not work out the way you wanted them to.