It’s Sonia here, and I will share some of my favorite and personal sex tips on how you can have better orgasms with your partner. It is not hard to admit that I, too, research better sex tips online. I am quite experienced when it comes to foreplay and anticipation for wild sex. Although I had my fair share of erotic sexual encounters, I used to feel deprived of a full-fledged, lip-biting, earth-shaking orgasm after I was done.

Make your sex research

Many women of all ages, occupations, and sex preferences ask the ‘how-to-orgasm’ question every day. That is why a fair share of good sex education is what we all need sometimes. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. On the contrary, the sooner you acknowledge that you know little about orgasm, the faster you’ll find a way out of your situation. This article can be your starting point.

Other obstacles to female orgasms

A group of Iranian scientists researched in 2017 and found out what interfered with orgasms in married Iranian women. They divided the main obstacles into four groups – physical, psychological, relational, and contextual. The first subgroup included different infections, bad mood, stress, and lack of natural lube. The second subgroup turned out to be the largest since it covered everything from the fear of pregnancy to shame of expressing sex wishes. The last two subgroups dealt with the lack of privacy at home and relationship problems among the spouses.

Some women struggle with at least one factor from all four subgroups every time they have sex. No wonder why it kills their sexual desire and doesn’t let them reach the pleasure peak. That is why before engaging in sex, ask yourself if you’re having some of the aforementioned problems. If the answer is yes, dealing with this problem might be the solution for you.

My experience with sex toys

Discovering sex toys, I bought myself a couple of vibrators, they were my favorite, and especially the rabbit vibrator got me shuddering with pleasure in seconds. My vibrator worked well underwater so I could have sex in the bath or shower. Besides, it was easily-controlled and pleasant to my skin, so I couldn’t help but come up with new positions for toy sex. For the record, adult toys can also make you well-prepared for anal sex if you’ve never had it before.

I realized that the vibrator was giving me greater pleasure than actual sex, which was odd and I wondered if I was becoming addicted to using it on my clit. When I noticed that I was more and more addicted to my rabbit friend, I realized that I started kind of flatlining. I wanted to incorporate the pleasure I got from the vibrator into real sex. Luckily, I was clever enough to analyze my orgasmic experiences and integrate them into sex with my human husband.

The clitoris is the key

The clitoris is like a button that turns on/off your wildest sexual fantasies. This part of a woman’s body has the largest number of nerve endings. Men usually reach down there when turning you on. It amplifies the best part of sex – the orgasm. Clitoral stimulation was the best part for me with the vibrator, because it felt so much better than a simple finger-rub. Bullet vibrators are efficient in this sense as you don’t need to put them inside. Hold the vibrating bullet on your clitoris while your partner is thrusting, and you will be in the chambers of Aphrodite, moaning with passion.

However, if you’re up for exotic sensations, try putting your toy inside of the vagina and turn on the slightest vibrations. This way, your vagina starts producing the love juice, and your labia get swollen and red, which means that you’re ready for sex.

Don’t forget about other body parts

Even though the clitoris is indeed the most powerful button in the woman’s body, it doesn’t mean that we should forget about the vagina, breasts, nipples, and mons. These erogenous zones belong to the main triggers of women’s orgasms, according to the study conducted by a group of American scientists.

There are several types of female orgasms: clitoral, anal, A-pot, U-pot, deep-spot, throat, whole-body, nipple – you name it! The luckiest girls can have several of them at the same time. By the way, to become a real game-player, both partners should have vivid imagery and rich fantasy to ‘get ready’ and ‘finish’ faster. Everything depends on your inner sensations because if you’re not relaxed or brooding over some routine stuff, there’s no place for horny vibes.

Test-drive new sex positions

Try different positions with the bullet vibrator to have more access to your clit. The guy is standing while you are laying on your back is a perfect position. You have your top exposed, and you can easily hold the vibrator in place. Start slow and then progress on to faster, wilder motion.

The clitoral vibration goes hand in hand with the muscle clenching inside your honey pot. The force of your partner’s thrusting adds to the whole experience, ending in a mind-boggling orgasm. If this is your first sex, don’t be shy to tell your partner what positions are your favorite. If you can’t do it, test-drive your relationship first.

Orgasm before sex

To spice things up, you can grab your bullet vibrator even before the actual sex begins. While your partner is watching you (you can even go solo), hold the vibrator directly on to the clitoris and wait for yourself to reach orgasm without penetration. After this clitoral-only orgasm, your vagina will be warm and wet, ready to take on your partner’s manhood.

The warmth, the already-sensitive clitoris, and your partner’s erect penis will add to the whole erotic experience. You will be getting sex in its purest forms, straight out of one of those erotic novels, I can bet on it. With this pre-orgasm, your body is already in the feel, waiting to be set free. Every touch and every thrust is amplified, and you don’t need to hold the bullet on your clit anymore.

Sex feels a lot better after an orgasm. It’s more passionate, and all your girly bits are sensitive to touch after an orgasm. Play a slow, jazzy tune, or maybe hip-hop, thrusting back and forth with the beat will make you feel like an Egyptian sex goddess. Just make sure you don’t squirt on your partner.